Recently, drugs a young member of our Jewish community confided in me that they felt that their sexual orientation wasn’t straight. The person, who I will not identify in this piece, not even by gender, expressed that they felt that if anyone in the Jewish community found out about their sexual leanings, they would be ostracized from the community and their life would basically be over.

It was ironic that this revelation came forth last week, when the Jewish Press, a religious Jewish newspaper out of New York published an op/ed piece from an orthodox man who also felt that he wasn’t straight and his life would be over if he told anyone. In fact, in his piece, the man said that suicide may be the only option for him now that his secret is out.

I know that the Torah doesn’t look favourably on homosexual activity, in fact it clearly calls the act an abomination.  But the Torah also gives clear instructions on how we, as Jews, have to deal with other Jews.

I wasn’t put on this earth to judge people. I was put on this earth with a mission to spread the light (as is every Jews mission) and that light does not include harassing a poor soul who is different from me. I personally don’t advertise my sexuality and honestly, I couldn’t give a damn about anyone elses. Sexuality belongs in the bedroom, private between the partners and G-d.  I believe that people should be who they are, proudly, and whoever doesn’t like it, too damn bad.

I expressed these sentiments on my show on Sunday and in feedback after the show, I was told that I’ve become too lenient in my religious leanings.  My response, too damn bad. If standing up and saying that we must treat people with dignity, respect and love is against Judaism, then I don’t want any part of Judaism.

In my world, Judaism, as exemplified in the song ‘To Love a Fellow Jew’ is to express love, support and comfort to those suffering. It’s all about being there for each other, to quote noted atheist John Lennon, Judaism is a “brotherhood of man”.

So why don’t we all put a sock it in, grow up and live and let live and do what we are supposed to, leave the Judging to the creator.

One Response to “Live and Let Live – Stop Judging Gays in Judaism”

  1. Michael

    Dear Howard,

    Thanks for sharing about this message, Best of health to you.



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